Taking your advice
Description
Public Displays of Affection
Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship
A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe
Avoid the First Date Let Down
Letting Go of the Control Freak
Keep It Classy America
How To Be More Emotionally Low Maintenance
I Like Me!
Why Are You Still Single?
How Do You Meet Someone New?
So, I while back I asked for your advice. And, like the lovely readers that you are, you came out to tell me what you thought. While I have not said much about it since then, I did listen. I’m usually pretty good like that. And last night I took your advice. LC and I had the conversation.
I promise you, I approached him carefully. There was a conversation needed about some general logistics first, so I led with that. Just basic stuff… you know… have you been tested, are we exclusive, blahblahblah. I thought the whole thing was going down right then, but that bit turned out just fine. (He is getting tested and we are exclusive, for the record.) Then since we were already on the topic, I asked if we could just stay there for a little bit. He balked instantly because he knew where it was going. But to his credit, he stuck with it. Sure we could talk about it, he said, but it isn’t his best topic. So we soldiered on.
I was gentle, and careful, and kind. I promise you. And he responded carefully, but honestly. We talked a little about his past. We talked a little about our present. We talked a little about what could be done. Honestly, it was a sad picture he painted for me. In the end, I finally just had to point out that if this was a resolvable issue, isn’t it worth trying to resolve? And he agreed to go to the doctor, get tested, and try to sort all of this out.
In the end, I took the time to make one more point. I made him listen while I told him that I am attracted to him and I want to be with him. I’m excited by him. And if this issue is something that can be worked through, I will try to work through it with him. I want to. And I’m here. He thanked me. And I promptly changed the subject.
This morning I still can’t believe I did it. I can’t believe the thing I dreaded is done and we are still intact. There are no promises as to where the future might lead, but for now… for this one moment, we are resting on the same page. I am relieved.
Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship
A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe
Avoid the First Date Let Down
Letting Go of the Control Freak
Keep It Classy America
How To Be More Emotionally Low Maintenance
I Like Me!
Why Are You Still Single?
How Do You Meet Someone New?
So, I while back I asked for your advice. And, like the lovely readers that you are, you came out to tell me what you thought. While I have not said much about it since then, I did listen. I’m usually pretty good like that. And last night I took your advice. LC and I had the conversation.
I promise you, I approached him carefully. There was a conversation needed about some general logistics first, so I led with that. Just basic stuff… you know… have you been tested, are we exclusive, blahblahblah. I thought the whole thing was going down right then, but that bit turned out just fine. (He is getting tested and we are exclusive, for the record.) Then since we were already on the topic, I asked if we could just stay there for a little bit. He balked instantly because he knew where it was going. But to his credit, he stuck with it. Sure we could talk about it, he said, but it isn’t his best topic. So we soldiered on.
I was gentle, and careful, and kind. I promise you. And he responded carefully, but honestly. We talked a little about his past. We talked a little about our present. We talked a little about what could be done. Honestly, it was a sad picture he painted for me. In the end, I finally just had to point out that if this was a resolvable issue, isn’t it worth trying to resolve? And he agreed to go to the doctor, get tested, and try to sort all of this out.
In the end, I took the time to make one more point. I made him listen while I told him that I am attracted to him and I want to be with him. I’m excited by him. And if this issue is something that can be worked through, I will try to work through it with him. I want to. And I’m here. He thanked me. And I promptly changed the subject.
This morning I still can’t believe I did it. I can’t believe the thing I dreaded is done and we are still intact. There are no promises as to where the future might lead, but for now… for this one moment, we are resting on the same page. I am relieved.
Début de l'événement
08.05.2022
Fin de l'événement
08.05.2022